Becoming a mother is a life changing experience – and no woman is left unmarked by it. There are breathtaking highs, and death defying lows right from the very start. Who knew there were such depths to our emotions!
Sometimes, when times get tough, or we’re so tired we walk into a room carrying an imaginary baby – it’s good to stop and remind ourselves of all the great things about being a mum.
11 great things about being a mum
For the majority of us, becoming a mother means that you actually created a baby. You grew it, fed it, cared for it, and birthed it. And now a part of you will carry on in the world – separate, but tied to you forever.
For those women that became a mother in a different way there is the forever knowledge that, in a world filled with billions of people, you found each other. Pretty amazing either way!
When they throw their little arms around us and melt into our neck – there’s no place on earth either of you would want to be.
3. Love like you’ve never known it
Sure we’ve felt love before. We’ve been in love. We’ve received love. We’ve loved our own parents and they’ve loved us back. We’ve said ‘I love you’ and meant it will everything in us.
But having a baby unlocks a secret vault of love, so big that when you look down into the abyss, you sometimes have to take a step back because the sheer vastness can be terrifying. Hold on to your hats (or breastpads) mamas!
4. Memory banks
One of the great gifts of parenthood is that you get to relive your childhood all over again. You remember the cartoons you used to watch, the ice creams you used to eat, the family holidays you used to go on, the scent of summer evenings and the thrill of learning to ride a bike for the first time.
5. Watching them sleep
Is there anything better than watching those perfect little faces, fast asleep and finally, finally(!) still and silent. Our hearts burst each and every time.
6. Chubby hands.
A little hand, gripping hold of our own. They anchor, their security, our everything.
7. Homemade cards
Birthdays, Mother’s Day, Easter, Christmas… every occasion has a homemade card to go with it. All of their love poured into a sticky mess of glitter and glue sticks, just for us.
Oh look! It’s a dog! And it’s wagging it’s tail! And it’s brown! Isn’t that absolutely amazing! And oh! That flower is purple and all the others are pink! Quick! Lets go over and have a closer look!
Children make us reopen our eyes to the wonders of the world. So many years spent sleepwalking through the beauty and craziness of life – time to wake up people!
Watching your child grow in independence is sometimes tinged with sadness – but it proves to you that you are doing your job well. Creating well rounded humans who care for others and can look after themselves is our primary role; and each shared toy, tied shoelace and solo walk to the shops is a step in the right direction.
10. Becoming a better person
Most parents have at some stage had to step up to the plate of parenthood. Whether it’s finding a new job to pay the bills, leaving a job to care for a struggling child, losing weight to live longer and play actively with them, overcoming body hang ups so they aren’t passed on, pretending to be brave so they won’t be crippled by shyness like their mother was, or a whole host of other personal issues. Parenthood makes us do what’s best for our child, and we become better people for it.
11. The joy of family
Families come in all shapes and sizes – single mums, blended families, step dads, co-parents, families of seven, only children, adopted sons, fostered daughters. But it doesn’t matter what the make up is – being part of a family is one of the greatest gifts we could ever be given.
Now if only they would just sleep a bit more…
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