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11 great things about being a mum (because sometimes we forget)

Becoming a mother is a life changing experience – and no woman is left unmarked by it. There are breathtaking highs, and death defying lows right from the very start. Who knew there were such depths to our emotions!

Sometimes, when times get tough, or we’re so tired we walk into a room carrying an imaginary baby – it’s good to stop and remind ourselves of all the great things about being a mum.

11 great things about being a mum

1. Creation!

For the majority of us, becoming a mother means that you actually created a baby. You grew it, fed it, cared for it, and birthed it. And now a part of you will carry on in the world – separate, but tied to you forever.

For those women that became a mother in a different way there is the forever knowledge that, in a world filled with billions of people, you found each other. Pretty amazing either way!

2. Cuddles

When they throw their little arms around us and melt into our neck – there’s no place on earth either of you would want to be.

3.   Love like you’ve never known it

Sure we’ve felt love before. We’ve been in love. We’ve received love. We’ve loved our own parents and they’ve loved us back. We’ve said ‘I love you’ and meant it will everything in us.

great things about being a mum

But having a baby unlocks a secret vault of love, so big that when you look down into the abyss, you sometimes have to take a step back because the sheer vastness can be terrifying. Hold on to your hats (or breastpads) mamas!

4. Memory banks

One of the great gifts of parenthood is that you get to relive your childhood all over again. You remember the cartoons you used to watch, the ice creams you used to eat, the family holidays you used to go on, the scent of summer evenings and the thrill of learning to ride a bike for the first time.

5. Watching them sleep

great things about being a mum

Is there anything better than watching those perfect little faces, fast asleep and finally, finally(!) still and silent. Our hearts burst each and every time.

6. Chubby hands.

A little hand, gripping hold of our own. They anchor, their security, our everything.

7. Homemade cards

Birthdays, Mother’s Day, Easter, Christmas… every occasion has a homemade card to go with it. All of their love poured into a sticky mess of glitter and glue sticks, just for us.

8. Wonder

Oh look! It’s a dog! And it’s wagging it’s tail! And it’s brown! Isn’t that absolutely amazing! And oh! That flower is purple and all the others are pink! Quick! Lets go over and have a closer look!

great things about being a mum

Children make us reopen our eyes to the wonders of the world. So many years spent sleepwalking through the beauty and craziness of life – time to wake up people!

9. Independence

Watching your child grow in independence is sometimes tinged with sadness – but it proves to you that you are doing your job well. Creating well rounded humans who care for others and can look after themselves is our primary role; and each shared toy, tied shoelace and solo walk to the shops is a step in the right direction.

10. Becoming a better person

Most parents have at some stage had to step up to the plate of parenthood. Whether it’s finding a new job to pay the bills, leaving a job to care for a struggling child, losing weight to live longer and play actively with them, overcoming body hang ups so they aren’t passed on, pretending to be brave so they won’t be crippled by shyness like their mother was, or a whole host of other personal issues. Parenthood makes us do what’s best for our child, and we become better people for it.

11. The joy of family

Families come in all shapes and sizes – single mums, blended families, step dads, co-parents, families of seven, only children, adopted sons, fostered daughters. But it doesn’t matter what the make up is – being part of a family is one of the greatest gifts we could ever be given.

Now if only they would just sleep a bit more…

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ASK LUCY

Q My son is 18 months old and has just started saying his first words. It is an extremely exciting time in our house and my husband and I are eager to encourage his speaking as much possible. What advice would you give us on how we can foster this without bombarding and confusing him?

AThere is nothing better than hearing your baby begin to talk. All the hard work you have put in over the last two years is coming back tenfold.
Toddlers will vary significantly with ability and speed of which they talk however a guide would be about 50 words by 2 years of age. The most important thing to watch for is that your baby/toddler is cooing and babbling and begins to string sounds together like “Mama/Dada” They should have a wide range of speech sounds and like to imitate you and things they hear.
There are many ways that you can promote Speech and Language development at home:
1. Slowing down your own speech and taking time over conversations with your little one. Every day is a new experience when you are 18 months, nappy changes, bath time, baking a cake brings endless opportunity for you to interact and offer new words for them to hear and repeat. Make eye contact, smile and use exaggerated tones to keep things interesting and fun for your tot.
2. Review the toys that you have on offer to your tot and ensure that they give plenty of open ended play opportunities. Role play is a wonderful way to allow children to take the lead. Kitchens with lots of plates, cups and pots. Fill the pots with dry pasta and allow your child to cook and serve you. Playdoh, painting, gardening and sandpits are also great for allowing your child to take the lead and babble about what they are doing. Read plenty of books together and point and allow them time to answer any questions that you ask.
3. Limit screen time. Overuse of televisions and iPads do not give your child opportunity to interact in a two way manner.
4. Ask your child lots of open ended questions “What’s that?” “Where are we?” Point at things they know the answer to for boosting confidence (Car/ Car, etc.) When they don’t know the answer, explain it to them. Limit baby talk and speak clearly with good pronunciation, remember you are the teacher and they will copy you.
If you are concerned about your child’s speech and language development, be sure to speak with your GP or developmental Health Nurse. They are very skilled at understanding the difference between speech delays and spotting something that may require professional attention.
Enjoy watching their little brains absorb the world around them and listen to what they have to say. It won’t be too long before they won’t stop talking to you, asking “Why Mummy/ Daddy?” every 5 minutes….

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ASK JESSICA

Q. I’m would like to start an exercise programme that will benefit my emotional health as much as my physical health, but I don’t know which type of class would be best. Should I consider choosing from yoga, pilates, tai chi, or could you recommend a class, please?

A It’s great that you have decided to get into exercise. The benefits to you are going to be great. You’ll sleep better, have more energy, better skin, reduced stressed, not to mention all the amazing physical benefits of your clothes fitting better, and looking healthy, trim and toned! My advice to you would be to try them all. Even if some don’t offer pay-as-you-go sessions, if you get in touch directly with the instructor, they will almost always let you try it out first to see if it’s for you. All of the above things that you mentioned are great for mental health, so it really will be a personal preference as to which you go for. On top of the classes you mention, all forms of exercise will give you great mental rewards so consider the not so obvious interval training sessions, bootcamp, and circuits too, as you will also feel on top of the world after a class like that.