My husband and I have a fantastic relationship, except I’ve never orgasmed with him and it’s starting to bother me. Should I be happy orgasming on my own and not with my husband?
Thank you for bringing up this very important topic.
It’s often more complicated for women to orgasm during intercourse than men but often very little is done to change this sexual bedroom dynamic.
It doesn’t sound like you are among the 10% of women who can’t orgasm due to physical conditions, medication or illness.
Still only about 30% of women are able to reach orgasm simply from intercourse alone. Which means you’re perfectly normal!
It also means if you want to orgasm during intercourse, you need to focus on having a clitoral orgasm…which, for many women, leads to a big psychological roadblock: namely showing your husband your sexual preferences.
If you’re uncomfortable showing how you achieve orgasm on your own – remember he’s not a mind reader and he will be incredibly happy to get this information – it’s time to come to terms with the omnipresent good girl/bad girl messages and why you may feel ashamed for him to witness your orgasm.
Good sex should never be limited to it always ending with orgasms for both partners. Just as important is the emotional and physical closeness, warmth, and caring.