Mum-of-four Becky Dore tells us about her journey to having four children following an unplanned pregnancy.
My husband Maurice and I married on the 30th June 2006 and could have never imagined the rollercoaster of a ride we would go on when it came to creating a family. We decided to start our family straight away and within a few months we were expecting our first baby. Rachel arrived 12 months after we got married.
Like a lot of first-time parents, we struggled at the beginning, as it really was a baptism of fire. Once we got into some routine, and found our feet, we then started discussing adding more little people to our gang.
When Rachel was 18 months, we decided to start trying again. This time, it wasn’t so easy. For many years we tried to conceive but unfortunately, we experienced secondary infertility. After years of trying, tests, doctor appointments and more trying we were advised to undergo fertility treatment.
In 2012, we had three healthy embryos, two of which they implanted and we froze our third embryo.
On the 16th April 2013, we welcomed our twins Emma and Siobhan to our family. Our plan was to survive the next 12 months and then to go back to the fertility clinic and implant our third embryo – but like all good plans, it wasn’t to be.
Our twins had just turned one and I wasn’t feeling the best. One day, I decided to take a pregnancy test, not expecting the result was going to be positive. I sat there in the toilet, trying to take in that there was a positive pregnancy test in my hand. I ran into our bedroom, where my husband was having his weekly lie in, and promptly woke him up. I couldn’t believe it, and really wasn’t that happy, as our plan was to go back for our last embryo.
It was meant to be
I spoke to our public health nurse and told her I wasn’t handling this pregnancy very well. I was still trying to cope with the twins and Rachel was adjusting to having siblings. I wasn’t in a good place – the public health nurse sent a referral letter to Dr. McCarthy, the perinatal psychiatrist, in Holles Street. I met with him to discuss how I was feeling.
Even after only one meeting with him I felt better, as the pregnancy continued I started to feel much better. At our 21-week scan, we found out that we were having a little boy. As a friend once told me, “What is meant for you, won’t pass you by.”
I had the twins by C-section, which meant that I had an option of a planned C-section for our little fella. After doing some research and chatting to Maurice, I opted for a C-section and at the same time, I requested a tubal ligation (getting my tubes tied – I didn’t want any more surprises!).
I had a very physical pregnancy, what with dealing with twins who were still babies and school runs – I was tired all the time. I was very lucky to have the support of my husband and family.
My brother dropped Maurice and I into Holles Street on the 16th December 2014 where we welcomed our fourth healthy child into the family.
Brian has been a wonderful addition and will be well minded by his three older sisters. The recovery from the C-section was hard, and I still very much relied on the help of my husband and family. Our house will always be busy and crazy but I wouldn’t change a thing.
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